FOMO–the fear of missing out is a term coined by Dan Herman, a marketing strategist in 2002. It was added to the Oxford Dictionary in 2013, and its official definition is: “Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.
Even though the term has only been used for a little over a decade, experiencing FOMO is nothing new. The fear of missing out can result in stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and a sense of not being good enough if it is not managed. It can distract you from the things that are very important.
Here are 4 simple ways to overcome your FOMO and stay focused on your most important goals.
1. Remember why it’s important you miss out.
One way to easily deal with FOMO is to reflect on your why. Why did you miss out? What were you doing instead? How important is that to your short and long-term plans?
When you find yourself thinking that the grass on the other side is greener, remember why you’re watering yours.
People commonly fail to fully consider their personal goals and why they have them. You must remind yourself that more is not always better, and that being busy does not imply productivity.
2. Limit your exposure to FOMO-inducing distractions
Knowing what sets off your FOMO alarm will help you avoid situations that set it off. You can limit your exposure to things that make you feel excluded.
Consider when you are most vulnerable to FOMO. Consider how you could avoid these situations in the future.
3. Celebrate your achievements
Building morale, momentum, and motivation in your business and in your life can help you avoid the fear of missing out. FOMO commonly occur when things aren’t going well or when your self-confidence is low.
This causes people to gaze enviously at what other people have or are doing. The key to overcoming the fear of missing out is to simply focus on what is going well, however big or small.
4. Journal about the positive
Keeping a diary may help remind you that you still have so much to be thankful for. “At the end of every day, write down three things you’re grateful for. It trains your brain to think in a more positive and present way about your life,” says Robi Ludwig, PsyD, a New York City-based psychotherapist and author of Your Best Age is Now. As you write, says Dr. Ludwig, remember that most of the stuff you worry about doesn’t happen anyway.
Chinwe Williams, a licensed professional counselor and associate professor at Argosy University in Atlanta adds: “Expressing yourself through writing can help to ease mental discomfort by releasing negative, destructive emotions.” “It enhances your self-awareness and understanding of what is deeply meaningful to you,” she adds. Plus, writing keeps you away from your phone and computer, which can be huge FOMO triggers. Not only will this be therapeutic for the body, mind, and soul, and give you some clarity, but putting the pen to paper will keep you away from falling down the social media “rabbit hole.”